Always use
condoms (external or internal/female condoms) or dental dams if you have vaginal, oral or anal sex. Condoms are the only method of contraception that protects against
both STIs and pregnancy. Even if you’re using other methods of contraception (like the pill), always use condoms as well.
Talk to your partner about your sexual health. When did you last get tested for STIs? Are you going to use condoms or dental dams? Who will bring them? Are they in date? Make sure you're both 100% comfortable with the arrangement. If you're choosing to have unprotected (condomless) sex, make sure you both
understand about STIs and the risks.
Never have sex (even with a condom) if your partner has a visible sore, ulcer or lump on their genitals or anal area. Don't shame them, but suggest they see their doctor or
sexual health clinic.
Some STIs can be spread through oral sex. If someone is doing oral sex on a penis, they need to use a condom to avoid STIs. If someone is doing oral sex on a vulva or anus, they need use a dental dam. This is especially important if you’ve got a cut or sore around your mouth or lips or bleeding gums.
Some STIs can also be passed on by using sex toys. Use condoms on sex toys and change the condom for each person. Wash toys carefully after use, and wash your hands after removing the condom.
You should wash your hands with soap and water before and after sexual play.
Don't brush your teeth within 30 minutes or so of having
oral sex. It can irritate your gums and create small cuts that increase your chances of getting an infection. If you want to freshen your breath, use mouthwash or sugar-free gum instead.
Agreements about using condoms or dental dams ensures that we're giving or getting informed consent - i.e. the conditions under which someone consents to do something sexual.
If someone consents to having sex with a condom, and then the other person secretly removes the condom during sex, this is not consensual - it would be a form of sexual violence. See our support services page to find places that help survivors of all kinds of sexual violence.